What do you do when your heart is bursting with romantic love for someone, who you would gladly take for a romantic partner, but you and/or he or she is already taken and it is highly unlikely you can ever have him/her exclusively to yourself? What if that person was already a parent, meaning his/her children would be involved? What if that person had a very different lifestyle from yours? What if that person lived hundreds or thousands of kilometers away from you and it was unlikely you would move to live with him/her or he/she would move to live with you?
But what if that person also have many wonderful things in common with you that attracted you to him/her in the first place? What if that person made you feel better than the partner you are currently with? Would you risk committing adultery with him/her? If you KNEW that in the absence of any barriers, you WOULD marry this man/woman, would you engage in sex with him/her? Or even if marriage was not to be, what would happen?
Difficult issues, all of them. The older I get, the less judgemental I am about such things. At this stage in my life, the issue of polyamory looks better all the time.
I just saw a comment on another person’s blog that knocked me out in its inanity.
Read that whole blog entry, and then this stupid comment:
Von, on February 23, 2010 at 2:04 pm Said:
Michael Hawkins get a life. How old are you? Before you start calling someone stupid and a quack perhaps you better look at how the pharmaceutical industry has “Brain Washed” you. The FDA uses society as guinea pigs to push their drugs. The drugs are killing our society. Yet they continue to push them. One could call the pharmaceutical industry drug pushers. The only thing that makes the DRUGS legal is the FDA continues to approve them (until people die then they take them off the shelves and approve another one. Until that one kills. It’s a vicious circle) what’s sad is that the pharmaceutical industry doesn’t care about how many people they kill each year. They’re only it for the money. If society were healthier and didn’t have to take drugs then you’d be out of a job.
Of course the drug companies are trying to make a profit off their products. And that is exactly what makes that comment so absurd.
I answered him as follows:
Dale Husband, on February 27, 2010 at 2:19 am Said:
Von, why should we beleive YOU? It’s kind of absurd for the big drug companies to kill their own customers and thus reduce their own business. Think longer and harder before you subscribe to some loony conspiracy theory.