One of the ugliest incidents I’ve ever seen in the Care2 web community started over…..beauty pageants!
Specifically, we were discussing in a political group a snafu involving the 2007 Miss Teen South Carolina in which she stumbled badly over answering a question regarding geography during a beauty contest. A friend of mine, whom I’ll protect by naming her Kelly, said the following:
“This peagents should be banned or at least reinvented, I think are worst are the ones with children.
I think the children peagents are sick absolutely sick.
Those poor kids do not have a normal life. They have to be taken to many peageants around USA.
At least teenagers can have a “mind” of the own( not the case we saw before ofcourse) but at least they have more options Children peagents are an American fenomenom I guess.
Beauty is a whole of things, not just a beautiful face or a beautiful body. It also needs to have a beautiful soul and mind.
I have to say I used to enjoy watching some of the contest like Miss World or miss Universesometimes.
But its something that I gradually began to understand that this women and girls need more than superficial beauty and our “need” of beauty can make others to suffer.”
Suddenly, two others, who I’ll name Debby and Brad, began to attack Kelly. It seems that Debby makes a living working for beauty pagaeants and was thus highly offended by Kelly’s comment. So to humiliate Kelly, Brad posted a pic of her and her husband together. Kelly appeared slightly overweight and had skin blemishes on her face, the kind women use makeup to hide. The implication seemed to be “Kelly, you are too FAT and UGLY to ever win a beauty contest, that’s why you attack them!” What made it even worse was that Brad was a co-host of the group in which the incident occured, and yet he was participating in the disruption of the very group he was supposed to protect, thus betraying the group’s owner.
At that point, all hell broke loose! I saw Debby and Brad’s personal attacks and jumped in to confront them. They refused to apologize to the other group members, many of whom were as outraged as I was, for their insult and ran away from the group altogether.
I’ve known Debby for some time, and she does have a bad temper, tending to make hateful attacks at people. I decided that she and Brad should be banned from Care2, so I urged all the other members of the group to flag their profiles so the Care2 admin would know what they had done. As a result of my suggestion, Debby and Brad went after me, and began trashing me all over Care2 as well as Kelly! Finally, my Care2 account was suspended for about 24 hours, and so were Debby and Brad’s accounts as well.
I have no regrets about defending my friend Kelly. No matter what she looks like, she didn’t deserve to be slammed and lied about like she was by Brad and Debby, who used to be Kelly’s friends. I myself do consider beauty pageants to be degrading to women, just as Kelly does. And a woman’s weight or her having bad skin is irrelevant to that issue. For anyone to make THAT the issue instead of the problem of beauty pagaents themselves and how THEY treat or portray women and girls is as childish and mean-spirited as it gets!