Abortion Autonomy

Read this story:


Inna Hudaya was a woman in trouble. Lying in a shoddy hotel room, she squeezed her eyes closed as an old woman performed an abortion on her with no anesthesia and no painkillers. They barely spoke a word after the exchange of money — a lot of money, money Hudaya had borrowed and for which she had sold many of her possessions including her motorbike to repay. This, Hudaya thought to herself, is how I will die.

But what else was she supposed to do? She was 22, pregnant, unmarried, and living in Indonesia, a country where abortion remains illegal in nearly all cases and out-of-wedlock pregnancy is intensely stigmatized. A medical student, Hudaya was just getting a toehold on a life she hoped would keep her out of Tasikmalaya, the conservative city she fled after high school. Having a baby would mean the end of everything: her studies, her relationship with her family, her freedom.

The procedure ended, and Hudaya walked out of the hotel room alive. The pain, though, persisted. Her relationship ended. A close relative disowned her, telling her it is a sin for a woman to kill her own blood. For years, Hudaya had the same dream: a baby chasing her, crying.

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Locker Room Talk?

Donald Trump has claimed that when he made the remark about wanting to grab a woman by her “pussy”, which is what sexual assault is, he was merely making “locker room talk”. Really? Here is what I would consider an actual example of that, which I freely share because I was the one who started it, 16 1/2 years ago.


A beautiful lady

Posted by Dale Husband on 2001-03-16, 02:33:30
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I have just discovered Musical Starstreams. I found this website and was browsing through it when I came upon the Listener’s Photo Gallery. I was casually glancing at the photos when I happened to see one of a young woman that stopped me dead in my tracks:Gwenevere. I tried to send her an E-mail, but she no longer is at the address JCblueyez@aol.com. Is she married? She is certainly one of the loveliest women I have ever seen. The man who gets (or has) her I will forever envy.


re: re: A beautiful lady

Posted by PurpleToe on 2001-03-16, 20:54:06
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She’s fetching, undoubtedly. (As in captivating, not like a dog.)</p><p> Christina and Terresa are cuties too.</p><p> I just wish &quot;Ft.Worth Carol&quot; had a bigger picture. She’s adorable. (You out there Carol?)


re: re: A beautiful lady

Posted by Zippy on 2001-03-16, 20:25:13
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I’m partial to Yvonne.</p><p>

re: re: A beautiful lady
Posted by Jason on 2001-03-17, 14:24:33
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Are you kidding? Has anyone seen Kathryn from L.A.? Check out those stems! Momma mia!


re: re: re: A beautiful lady

Posted by Purpletoe on 2001-03-18, 15:56:06
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I guess I’m into &quot;inner beauty&quot; more now.</p><p> Not that I didn’t notice her &quot;stems&quot;, however.

re: re: re: A beautiful lady

Posted by Techno Kid on 2001-03-19, 00:14:13
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(LOL!) What are stems!? If you are saying what I think you are saying… (LOL!) … I’ve always been a stem man!

I got a little irritated at this point. I guess I didn’t expect other men to be talking about other women.


re: Ahem!

Posted by Dale Husband on 2001-03-19, 02:05:36
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Well, I guess we do have different tastes in women, but I was hoping to hear from Gwenevere herself, not several men talking about &quot;stems&quot;. I just thought I’d brighten her day if she saw this, so I’m disappointed that she hasn’t replied. No matter, I’ll move on.</p><p>


re: re: Ahem!

Posted by Cupid on 2001-03-19, 08:06:00
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Yeah Dale, I too am shocked that Gwen doesn’t check back here hourly to see if someone might be interested in dating her, based on her gallery picture. Heck, you may be the &quot;one&quot; she’s been looking for all her life!

Then Gwen herself showed up. The thing to remember here is that I made my initial comment about her where she herself could see it! Quite simply, if you have to hide a complement about a woman so she cannot see and respond to it directly, it is not a complement, but a sexist jab.


re: re: re: Ahem! My ears are burning🙂

Posted by Gwenevere on 2001-03-20, 01:09:06
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</p><p> What’s this? Locker room talk on Starstreams? tsk tsk </p><p> </p><p> No, can’t say I check hourly but I do scope the forum from time to time.</p><p> </p><p> I was quite surprised to see my name as I was browsing thru this evening, Dale. How can I not be flattered by such sweet words? Thank you🙂 It brought a smile to my lips…</p><p> </p><p> …even as I beheld the following visitor’s post, who casually cast me aside for a pair of hot &quot;stems&quot;🙂 Jeez, you men can be so ruthless. Heehee. Aaaah, well. Can’t please ’em all.</p><p> </p><p> Blessings~ Gwen


re: re: one more thing…

Posted by Gwenevere on 2001-03-20, 02:32:56
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</p><p> Just for the record…personally, I kinda like that guy with the third eyeball. What a hottie!!😉 </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>


re: re: re: one more thing…

Posted by warrior poet on 2001-04-02, 15:02:30
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No offense Gwen…but I find Julie-Anna on the swing with the lush green surrounding her much more eye catching and beautiful.

THAT is the only kind of “locker room talk” I would ever do. And it is depressing that I only remembered this amusing conversation as a result of the vulgarity of Mr. Trump.

Gwenevere, wherever you are, I remember you. And your memory will always be loved.


The Downfall of Billy Graham’s Legacy

Long after I abandoned Christianity as a college student (after I learned that most of the claims made to support it were nothing but double standards and even outright lies), I continued to respect evangelist Billy Graham as one of the genuine Christians I knew of. While some of his fellow Christian leaders would join together to form the despicable scam known as the “Religious Right”, Billy Graham steered clear of such things and continued to merely preach the Gospel with no political references. He also befriended and advised both Democratic and Republican Presidents regardless of their political or religious background, even the first Catholic President John F. Kennedy.

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What is really “dangerous” within Christianity?

First, consider this Bible reference:

Luke 9:49-50
“Master,” said John, “we saw someone driving out demons in your name and we tried to stop him, because he is not one of us.”
“Do not stop him,” Jesus said, “for whoever is not against you is for you.”

That seems like an absolute proclamation. Jesus certainly did not say, “Whoever preaches my doctrines exactly according to some standard made long ago is for you.”

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Compassion and Human Dignity

One of the most powerful appeals of dogmatic God-centered religions like Christianity can be summed up perfectly in this song by Steven Curtis Chapman that was all over Christian radio back when I was a Christian. Even now, it is beautiful to me.

Sometimes His eyes were gentle
And filled with laughter,
And sometimes they cried;
Sometimes there was a fire
Of holy anger,
In Jesus eyes.
But the eyes that saw hope in the hopeless,
That saw through the fault to the need,
Are the same eyes that look down from heaven
Into the deepest part of you and me.

His eyes are always upon us;
His eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes, in His eyes.

Sometimes His voice comes calling
Like rolling thunder,
Or like driving rain;
And sometimes His voice is quiet,
And we start to wonder
If He knows our pain.
But He who spoke peace to the water
Cares more for our hearts than the waves,
And the voice that once said “Youre forgiven”,
Still says “Youre forgiven” today.

Sometimes I look above me when stars are shining
And I feel so small;
How could the God of heaven and all creation
Know I’m here at all.
But then in silence He whispers,
“My child, I created you too
And youre my most precious creation;
I even gave my Son for you.”

His eyes are always upon you;
His eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes,

No matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes

Sometimes His eyes were gentle
And filled with laughter,

Christians often say that we are called to be like God and Jesus, to be as loving towards lesser beings as possible. Meanwhile, when we look at how atheists often present themselves on the internet, we see very little compassion or respect for the downtrodden and broken. Instead, we see bigoted crap like this from the “Amazing Atheist”:

No, you bastard, you know nothing about the topic of triggering….


That video comes from the same sort of atheist who claims that religion itself is a scourge to society. I referred directly to such an atheist fanatic while commenting on a much earlier blog entry:



truthspeaker | June 15, 2010 2:53 PM

It wouldn’t matter if all religions behaved like the Society of Friends and the ELCA. It is still based on the premise that believing in things without evidence as a virtue. As long as it starts with that premise – and it always will, because if it didn’t it wouldn’t be religion -, it will always be evil. There’s just no getting around it – promoting irrationality as a virtue is bad for humanity. No matter how much you polish the turd, it will still be a turd.

Both the Unamazing Asshole and the “truthspeaker” can go fuk themselves. Denying something does not disprove it, in both cases. And ignoring the good that religious people often do in the name of their religions is, well…..IGNORANCE!

I will rewrite the song by Steven Curtis Chapman to reflect how I wish white male atheists would conduct themselves, instead of only thinking about themselves.

Sometimes our eyes are gentle
And filled with laughter,
And sometimes they cry;
Sometimes there is a fire
Of righteous anger,
Deep in our eyes.
But the eyes that see hope in the hopeless,
That see through the fault to the need,
Are the same eyes that look within ourselves
To seek the best of what we can be.

Our eyes should always be looking;
Our eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where we go,
We will always see with open eyes

Sometimes our voice comes calling
Like rolling thunder,
Or like driving rain;
And sometimes our voice is quiet,
And they start to wonder
If we know their pain.
But if we speak peace to the world
And care for their hearts anyway
Then the voice that once says “You are loved”,
Will say “You are loved” every day.

Sometimes we look above us when stars are shining
And we feel so small;
How can such tiny creatures on this one world
Make a difference at all.
But then in the silence remember,
That we exist in vast numbers too
And when we all work as one species
There is so much good we can do

Our eyes should always be looking;
Our eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where we go,
We will always see with open eyes

Could that happen? Perhaps, but we would have to look to these:




Because it is HUMANISM we all need, not just atheism. If the progressive humanists among atheists can defeat and drown out the conservative bigots, and then provide all the charitable and emotional needs of people who need help and comfort, then they will cause the final downfall of dogmatic religion around the world. Let it be so.