Compassion and Human Dignity

One of the most powerful appeals of dogmatic God-centered religions like Christianity can be summed up perfectly in this song by Steven Curtis Chapman that was all over Christian radio back when I was a Christian. Even now, it is beautiful to me.

Sometimes His eyes were gentle
And filled with laughter,
And sometimes they cried;
Sometimes there was a fire
Of holy anger,
In Jesus eyes.
But the eyes that saw hope in the hopeless,
That saw through the fault to the need,
Are the same eyes that look down from heaven
Into the deepest part of you and me.

CHORUS
His eyes are always upon us;
His eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes, in His eyes.

Sometimes His voice comes calling
Like rolling thunder,
Or like driving rain;
And sometimes His voice is quiet,
And we start to wonder
If He knows our pain.
But He who spoke peace to the water
Cares more for our hearts than the waves,
And the voice that once said “Youre forgiven”,
Still says “Youre forgiven” today.

Sometimes I look above me when stars are shining
And I feel so small;
How could the God of heaven and all creation
Know I’m here at all.
But then in silence He whispers,
“My child, I created you too
And youre my most precious creation;
I even gave my Son for you.”

CHORUS
His eyes are always upon you;
His eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes,

No matter where you go,
You will always be in His eyes

Sometimes His eyes were gentle
And filled with laughter,

Christians often say that we are called to be like God and Jesus, to be as loving towards lesser beings as possible. Meanwhile, when we look at how atheists often present themselves on the internet, we see very little compassion or respect for the downtrodden and broken. Instead, we see bigoted crap like this from the “Amazing Atheist”:

No, you bastard, you know nothing about the topic of triggering….

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That video comes from the same sort of atheist who claims that religion itself is a scourge to society. I referred directly to such an atheist fanatic while commenting on a much earlier blog entry:

https://dalehusband.com/2010/08/09/misdefining-terms-for-purposes-of-propaganda/#comment-677

http://pandasthumb.org/archives/2010/06/in-defense-of-m.html#comment-219719

truthspeaker | June 15, 2010 2:53 PM

It wouldn’t matter if all religions behaved like the Society of Friends and the ELCA. It is still based on the premise that believing in things without evidence as a virtue. As long as it starts with that premise – and it always will, because if it didn’t it wouldn’t be religion -, it will always be evil. There’s just no getting around it – promoting irrationality as a virtue is bad for humanity. No matter how much you polish the turd, it will still be a turd.

Both the Unamazing Asshole and the “truthspeaker” can go fuk themselves. Denying something does not disprove it, in both cases. And ignoring the good that religious people often do in the name of their religions is, well…..IGNORANCE!

I will rewrite the song by Steven Curtis Chapman to reflect how I wish white male atheists would conduct themselves, instead of only thinking about themselves.

Sometimes our eyes are gentle
And filled with laughter,
And sometimes they cry;
Sometimes there is a fire
Of righteous anger,
Deep in our eyes.
But the eyes that see hope in the hopeless,
That see through the fault to the need,
Are the same eyes that look within ourselves
To seek the best of what we can be.

Our eyes should always be looking;
Our eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where we go,
We will always see with open eyes

Sometimes our voice comes calling
Like rolling thunder,
Or like driving rain;
And sometimes our voice is quiet,
And they start to wonder
If we know their pain.
But if we speak peace to the world
And care for their hearts anyway
Then the voice that once says “You are loved”,
Will say “You are loved” every day.

Sometimes we look above us when stars are shining
And we feel so small;
How can such tiny creatures on this one world
Make a difference at all.
But then in the silence remember,
That we exist in vast numbers too
And when we all work as one species
There is so much good we can do

Our eyes should always be looking;
Our eyes never close in sleep.
And no matter where we go,
We will always see with open eyes

Could that happen? Perhaps, but we would have to look to these:

http://americanhumanist.org/

http://huumanists.org/

http://iheu.org/

Because it is HUMANISM we all need, not just atheism. If the progressive humanists among atheists can defeat and drown out the conservative bigots, and then provide all the charitable and emotional needs of people who need help and comfort, then they will cause the final downfall of dogmatic religion around the world. Let it be so.

A Horror Story of Rape, Ostracism and Triggering Memories

A friend of mine just made this long and profound statement on Facebook. I think it needs to be preserved for as many people to see as possible. I left her name out of it, but her identity does not matter. NO ONE should have to endure this!

I heard a group of fifteen year old girls discussing a girl in their high school who had been s by a classmate talking on the train yesterday. As I sat there my heart bled listening to the callous, insensitive and horrifying commentary which ensued for a good half hour.

Their discussion was completely devoid of any sympathy, without even one of the seven teens showing an ounce of sympathy.

As far as they were concerned, the girl who had accused their classmate of rape was probably not lying, but apparently should have known better than to have hung out with this specific boy because he was a “ghetto” kid who had a reputation for being a ladies man?

There were so many things I wanted to say as I sat there behind them almost in tears listening to these girls fault their classmate for having him to her house while her parents were out (as if anyone of them had never gone out with a boy alone before). Especially given that she was a white girl with money while the guy was from the projects.

They never once questioned the guys innocence as apparently some neighbor overheard the girls screams and called the cops who arrived as the guy was exiting the premises only to find the girl beaten unconscious, naked on her bedroom floor.

Instead of showing even a smidge of compassion or empathy, all these twits could focus on was that she never should have had a ghetto rat (aka black boy from the projects) in her house to begin with and that she probably led him on anyway as she had big boobs and always looked “like a slut”.

It took me right back to nineteen years ago when I was raped by my puppt loves cousin as his uncle held my puppy love down to wait to take his turn on me. Fortunately, my bf finally got out of his much older uncles grasp and ran. His uncle chased him to the train station where he lost him and my puppy love called the cops to tell them his cousin was raping me.

By the tine the cops arrived at my house it was over but I was beaten and bloodied and brought to the hospital. My bf testified against his cuz as an eye witness and finally at the trial a year later my rapist admitted what he did to me in court.

In the year leading upto the trail, my entire neighborhood (mostly old school Italians) completely turned on me. I went from being a straight a student to a high school drop out within 6 months due to the insanity which ensued. Not only facing death threats, having guns pulled on me, having my family threatened by the family of the guy who raped me, but also being shunned by the very community I grew up in all because
a white girls like me must have been asking for it to have 3 Puerto Rican boys in my house alone. I guess that fact alone made what happened to me my fault.

The harrassment and bullying I endured at the hands of my community, including being jumped by the same Italian girls I grew up with almost every week and having their mothers who had known me as a little girl shun me and forbid me from talking to their daughters (one neighbor of mine went so far as to call me a slut and spit on me after telling me if she saw me try to talk to her daughter again she would personally fuck me up).

Not to mention what the so called “Justice System” put me through, maligning my character, questioning my morality, trying to paint me as a slut beforehand (which shouldn’t have mattered even if that had been true, which it certainly was not). As if wearing a short skirt or hanging out with a boy or two is tantamount to asking to be raped!

And my case involved a eye witness who was the rapists cousin testifying against him, all of the physical evidence the district attorney could want and a confession from the guy who did it)…

It took me 15 years to finally stop running from what happened to me and rebelling against the society which punished me for being the victim of a particularly brutal and sadistic rape and to begin therapy to finally face my emotions and deal with them.

I just turned 33 August 15th and it isn’t til now, almost twenty years later, that I finally know in my heart I did nothing wrong, nothing to deserve what happened to me, and to realize that I have nothing to be guilty about.

I was the victim of a crime. I was a trusting, naive, immature and very sheltered 14 year old girl who endured a crime which destroys women in their forties. I was just beginning to discover who I was and form my sense of self when every single thing I thought I knew and believed in was ripped away from me as I was plunged into a dark world that treated me as if I was somehow to blame for being the victim of a sadistic crime while my rapist simultaneously was given more rights and protected more than I was.

Being a minor I was given no choice in testifying and after coming close to dying at least three times and being threatened more times than I could count with the system doing nothing to protect me besides giving me a order of protection which never mattered anyway when I changes my mind not to testify I was threatened with curfews and being put in a group home “for my own protection” while my rapist was free to torture me every time I left my house. It was as if I committed a crime instead of being the victim of one. Never mind the picture the defense attorney painted of me and the circus that turned into.

To have my community black ball me was just one more nail in the coffin. I was destroyed. I overdosed three times on alcohol (the first time a mere three months within being raped) and eventually moved onto stronger drugs.

I was suicidal, had no self esteem, hated myself and the world in general. I went from a happy go lucky, quirky, carefree teenager to a self loathing, rebellious hellion. And had I not been so chicken shit I would have slit my wrist within a year. Instead I spent more than a decade putting myself in situations I knew could kill me. And came really close to death, though somehow lived every single time.

It’s taken almost two decades to finally mature enough to realize nothing I did caused what happened to me. I was the victim of a brutal rape because some sick fuck got off on beating a girl half his size into a pulp and could only feel powerful watching me plead and beg and fight for my life. This guy was a twisted motherfucker and he enjoyed my agony. The more I screamed and fought the more he enjoyed himself. I just happened to be his victim that day (yes, there were at least three more girls he did it too that I know of as well).

Society has come a long way when it comes to sex crimes and the way we deal with them. But we still have a hell of a long way to go.

Rape is never a womans fault. I don’t care if a severely inebriated prostitute is walking in the middle of 4the Avenue naked. No means no. Period.

And we need to each our sons and daughters, from an early age, to realize this. Rape isn’t about sex. It’s about power. It’s about a man who is so sick the only way he can get aroused is by hurting, brutalizing, and ravaging a woman using his penis as a weapon. Just as a arsonist is aroused by watching fires he sets burn, it’s the same psychological phenomenon.

It is never the victims fault. And it’s high time that truth be told until it replaces the fallacy of “the woman always being somehow at fault”.
The bulshit needs to end.

No woman should ever have to endure being ostracised and maligned for being raped. Ever again.

Stop the madness.

#Rape101 #sex #crimes #rape #victim #rights #support #ItsNeverYourFault

Racism, sexism, and others forms of bigotry work together to degrade us all. The rape alone was terrible, but even worse was the lack of support and even victim blaming from a large part of the community at the woman in question for being raped. IF THEY EXCUSE EVIL, IT IS THE SAME AS IF THEY COMMIT THE EVIL THEMSELVES!

The first principle of Unitarian Universalism is of the inherit worth and dignity of every person, period. No one deserves to be degraded because his or her appearance, background, race, economic status, sexual orientation, or anything else not related to CHARACTER.

Why party labels in the USA are completely useless

Watch this video:

The anti-slavery party of Abraham Lincoln during the Civil War was NOT the party of Big Business from the 1870s to the 1930s. The party that defended slavery before and during the Civil War was NOT the party that fights for the rights of blacks and other minorities today.  The Religious Right which infested the Republicans in the 1980s had almost nothing in common with the likes of Donald Trump now.

This is why we need a MULTI-PARTY system like in some European countries. The two-party system we Americans have always had is by nature misleading. The south has ALWAYS been conservative compared to the north. If the Ku Klux Klan was founded today, it would be founded by southern REPUBLICANS. Conservatism is the ideology we must always fight, no matter what party label it marches under.

For the record, it is not BIG government we should oppose, but STUPID government which is a problem no matter what its size. Did you know that Ronald Reagan, a conservative Republican, actually increased government by massive military spending….that we also never needed in the first place?! And why did Reagan do that? Because so many big businesses have had contracts with our military and profit from every war we end up fighting in! I can guarantee that if a Republican gets the Presidency in the next decade or so, then he will find an excuse, any excuse to get us into another overseas war like Bush Sr. did when he pushed us into war with Iraq in 1991. and his son did again in 2003. Consider yourselves warned!

As for illegal immigration, the rules were designed beforehand to exclude non-white people from Latin America, including Mexico. Ironic considering we conquered and annexed half of Mexico’s territory in the 1840s. “Hey, thanks for all your land, but we do not want your people! GO AWAY!!!” Meanwhile, Puerto Rico, which is majority Spanish-speaking and non-white, remains a mere possession of the USA and not a state. Go figure.

Tim LaHaye is no more

Read this news story:

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/left-behind-co-author-tim-lahaye-leading-voice-evangelicalism-dies-n616481

‘Left Behind’ Co-Author Tim LaHaye, Leading Voice of Evangelicalism, Dies

Tim LaHaye, an intellectual and popular leader of the evangelical movement whose 16 “Left Behind” novels sold tens of millions of copies, died Monday at age 90 in San Diego following a stroke last week, his ministry and his family said.

The “Left Behind” novels, co-written with Jerry B. Jenkins, were enormously popular, crashing mainstream best-seller lists in the 1990s and the 2000s, which until then had been all but unheard of for Christian-themed fiction.

The books, which were based heavily on the Book of Revelation, chronicled the struggles of the unfortunate people “left behind” on Earth after the Second Coming of Jesus and the “Rapture” of believers into Heaven, introducing the frankly apocalyptic theology to a much wider audience.

“Thrilled as I am that he is where he has always wanted to be, his departure leaves a void in my soul that I don’t expect to be filled until I see him again,” Jenkins said in a statement Monday.

But the books were only part of the reason the Institute for the Study of American Evangelicals at Wheaton College named LaHaye the most influential leader in evangelical Christianity in 2001 — ahead of Billy Graham, James Dobson and Jerry Falwell.

Falwell, who died in 2007, credited LaHaye with having inspired him to found the Moral Majority in 1979. And in a 2005 interview with Time magazine, Falwell called LaHaye and Jenkins’ “Left Behind” books the most influential Christian body of literature of the 20th century — behind only the Bible itself.

LaHaye also founded San Diego Christian College, 12 Christian secondary schools and the Tim LaHaye School of Prophecy at Falwell’s Liberty University in Virginia.

Among the first departments at San Diego Christian College was the Institute for Creation Research, which branched out as an influential young-Earth creationist research organization in 1972.

In 2005, Time enshrined LaHaye and his wife of almost 70 years, Beverly LaHaye — an evangelical leader in her own right as founder and chairwoman of the powerful conservative political group Concerned Women of America — as “The Christian Power Couple.”

Combined, their books and their radio and TV shows reached hundreds of millions of conservative Christians around the world for more than a quarter-century — and drew sharp criticism from liberal organizations and fellow pastors on the more progressive side of the Christian spectrum.

In 2009, LaHaye famously called President Barack Obama a socialist whose rise to power was possibly a signal of the approach of the End Times.

In an essay Monday in Christianity Today, Jenkins acknowledged that LaHaye was often called “opinionated, polemic, a right-wing conservative fundamentalist — and some will even accuse him of homophobia.”

But “the Tim LaHaye I got to know had a pastor’s heart and lived to share his faith,” Jenkins wrote. “He listened to and cared about everyone, regardless of age, gender, or social standing.

“If Tim was missing from the table at a book signing or the green room of a network television show, he could usually be found in a corner praying with someone he’d just met — from a reader to a bookstore clerk to a TV network anchorman.”

LaHaye’s ministry said that in addition to his wife, he is survived by four children, nine grandchildren, 16 great-grandchildren, a brother and a sister.

I first heard about Tim LaHaye when I was still a thoroughly brainwashed Southern Baptist and I had the misfortune to pick up and read his book “The Battle for the Mind”, a right-wing extremist diatribe that demonized secular Humanism as a corrupter of  American society. I wasn’t until I attended college and deconverted from Christianity that I realized the truth. I came to see that Humanists were to LaHaye what Jews were to Adolph Hitler and his Nazis; they were scapegoats that Christian bigots could focus their hatred on instead of the spiritual love that Jesus actually taught about.

As for that series of “Left Behind” novels LaHaye co-wrote with Mr. Jenkins, the entire premise behind those books was an outright lie, as I already showed in this blog entry:

Why the Rapture is a bogus concept

And that is why I prefer to call that fraud Tim LaHELL. He was just like Hal Lindsey, another self-styled expert on Bible prophecy no one should take seriously!

 

If Feminism was really dangerous to men…

……then this would be a typical statement by feminists:

All men are either rapists or potential rapists because of their constant sex drive and therefore all women are justified in using extreme force to keep those prevs away from them. It is thus recommended that all girls and women train themselves to kick men in the groin in order to badly damage their genitals to prevent them from having sex. Indeed, it would be best for them to buy and wear constantly steel-toed boots so that such kicks would actually shatter the front of a man’s pelvis, making him unable to walk and thus rape anyone. Boys growing up must be constantly reminded that they will be badly beaten if they ever lay a hand on any girl. Marriage and motherhood are things to be scorned, not celebrated. Men are needed as sperm donors and as financial support for the children they become fathers to, but otherwise are disposable. Only women should ever be leaders in business, politics, religion or science; men should work to prove themselves worthy of our respect and then keep working constantly to keep it.

Show me a feminist who has ever made a statement like this, MRAs!